You Don’t have to do any of it!

Wait? What!! You don’t HAVE to do any of it!
That’s right. You can stop doing any of those things any time you want!
You don’t HAVE to pay your bills.
You don’t HAVE to go to work.
You don’t HAVE to take care of yourself or your family.
You don’t HAVE to do housework.


Sure there are consequences to NOT doing these things but so often we burden ourselves with this word “HAVE” when what we mean is we “CHOOSE” to do them.


If there are things on your to do list that you do not “choose” to do then should they be there at all.


How often have you done something out of obligation that you actually hate doing and wish you could just stop?
What would happen if you did just stop doing it?
I stopped sending Christmas cards some years back. I would feel guilty because some people really love this tradition and I used to feel like I had to do it but that was a lie. I just stopped doing it. Sure, I replaced that tradition by telling people I wasn’t doing it and wanted to meet up with friends and family at Christmas instead, but I just chose not to do it any more. It was a small thing but very freeing.


You don’t have to do the cleaning. Your house will get really messy (I know ours was a few years ago because I hated cleaning so much I always put it off) and at that point you can decide if you choose to live like that, you choose to start doing it again or you get someone in to do it for you (which is what I did). I recommend delegation whenever possible.
Look at your to do list today and honestly look at what you are CHOOSING to spend your time doing.
What things could you drop entirely... What things have you been complaining about that actually you are doing because you are choosing to do them because they are important... like looking after yourself. Next time you say... I’d love to do XYZ but I HAVE to... think 🤔 No, I’m choosing to!!