When you get up in the morning and head to the bathroom and see yourself in the mirror what do you think / say to yourself.
Lets face it, it's normally not the most pretty of sights. Ruffled hair, no products, no enhancements. But that person is the real you.
I have recently started a fitness challenge at my local gym and we all have to fill in goal sheets stating what we want to change and because it's a gym everyone is getting very body / looks focused. We all want to look better, healthier, more attractive. We all know that fitness will also help our mental health too but lets face it, we all tend to think about how we look.
What I realised was that most of us want to look better but we are all being very disparaging of the very bodies which are going to be doing the hard work to get us our results. I know I wrote in my goal section, that I wanted to look in the mirror and see someone attractive again.
I want to LOOK better so that i'd FEEL better.
This is the wrong way round!
We need to FEEL better so we are able do the work to LOOK better.
My own fitness journey started a year ago and the statement above was what I wrote down then. Since then I realised that by telling myself I looked fat or tired or unattractive when I looked in the mirror was having a negative effect on my motivation.
Self talk is probably the number one thing that causes so many of our problems.
I tend to preach the message "Would you say the kind of things you say to yourself to someone you love?"
When we look in the mirror for the first time each day it is our first opportunity to self talk.
What do you really want to say to yourself?
How do you think the negative thoughts you may be having are affecting your day. How does it affect your Decisions? How does it affect your motivation levels?
I have talked about trying on thoughts in a previous blog post but here are some different thoughts to try out next time you look in the mirror.
Today I am going to make great choices for my health and well-being.
I can do this.
I am capable of more than I think.
I am enough, just as I am.
Trust me, if you start to be kind to yourself you will reap the rewards because you will find it easier to find the motivation to do anything.
If you feel like you might want to work more on your self talk strategy get in touch via my coaching page on this website or by email to arrange a FREE INTRODUCTORY COACHING SESSION