How to Boost your Emotional Intelligence
Our emotions are how we experience the world and physically process information. We often refer to our Emotions as our Feelings because they are just that.
They are physical feelings.
We all know that positive emotions feel good and we know that many negative emotions can give us real feeling or sensations of pain or discomfort.
Love might make us feel all warm and fuzzy and grief can hurt like a knife through the heart. The human language has given us words for all of these emotions
because they are common human experiences.
To feel emotions makes us human!
So what is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence, for me, means being able to recognise and identify the emotions that I am feeling at any given time, or that I recognise in others around me.
I believe that many of us don't take time to work on our emotional intelligence and we limit ourselves to a very basic range of emotions and therefore limit our human experience.
How many times has someone asked you how you feel and you said ... “Fine!” or “I'm good.” or “ I'm feeling ok.” or when you have felt negative emotion you have said you feel “down”, or “sad” or “anxious” but you are really just reaching for general cover all language.
I believe if we increase our emotional vocabulary and learn to see the nuanced differences between each one by practicing recognising what we feel and regularly checking in with ourselves, that we can enrich our experience of life.
Look through the list of emotional vocabulary attached.
All of these emotions FEEL different.
Take a minute to look through the list and think about whether you know what each one feels like for you?
When did you last feel that emotion?
Are there any on there that you have never really felt at all? (Very possible).
Are you open to being able to feel all of them, even the negative ones?
Now i challenge you to try to use more of these words in your everyday life.
Next time someone asks how you feel, ask yourself if “FINE” or “GOOD” actually does your real feelings any justice?
Right now I feel driven and enthusiastic.
This morning I felt exhausted after a night of coughing.
When I was working on a problem at work yesterday I was feeling perplexed.
Why not keep a mood log to see how much of your emotional life you are really in touch with?